{"id":13681,"date":"2016-07-10T08:38:18","date_gmt":"2016-07-10T05:38:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/dergi\/?p=13681"},"modified":"2023-11-07T11:28:45","modified_gmt":"2023-11-07T08:28:45","slug":"sovmeye-hayir-duaya-evet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/sovmeye-hayir-duaya-evet\/","title":{"rendered":"S\u00d6VMEYE HAYIR DUAYA EVET"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"1772015_130039372453314122672_Original\"<\/a>S\u00f6vme \u201cT\u00fcrk\u00e7e\u2019de a\u011f\u0131r ve k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u00f6z s\u00f6yleme, \u0131rza ve namusa dokunan ay\u0131p ve \u00e7irkin ifadeler kullanma, k\u00fcfretme\u201d[1]<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a> anlam\u0131na gelir. Sadece muhatab\u0131n\u0131 utand\u0131rmakla kalmaz, duyan\u0131 da utand\u0131ran \u00e7irkin bir s\u00f6z ve davran\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Ne yaz\u0131k ki i\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z toplum bu konuda \u00e7ok mahirdir. \u00d6yleleri vard\u0131r ki i\u00e7erisinde \u00e7irkin s\u00f6z bulunmayan c\u00fcmle kurmaktan olduk\u00e7a acizdirler. Bu s\u00f6zler onlar i\u00e7in \u00e7ok normal, s\u0131radan ve basittir. Oysa s\u00f6vme fiili dilin afetlerinden olup ayn\u0131 zamanda dilin sahibine ihanetidir. Allah\u2019\u0131n en k\u0131ymetli ikram\u0131 olan dilin \u00e7irkinliklere alet edilmesi onu ikram edene kar\u015f\u0131 yap\u0131labilecek en b\u00fcy\u00fck sayg\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131kt\u0131r. <\/span><\/p>\n

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S\u00f6vme \u00e2deti, \u00e7irkinli\u011fi ne bir co\u011frafyaya, ne de her hangi bir \u0131rka has. S\u00f6vme insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n en eski problemlerinden biridir. S\u00f6vmenin basit ve s\u0131radan bir i\u015fmi\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fclmesi bizatihi s\u00f6vmenin kendisinden daha a\u011f\u0131r ve \u00e7irkindir. \u0130nsana d\u00fc\u015fen ise buna m\u00fcdahale etmek, yap\u0131lmamas\u0131n\u0131 istemektir. Ne yaz\u0131k ki toplumumuzun ya\u015fl\u0131lar\u0131 s\u00f6v\u00fcyor, gen\u00e7leri s\u00f6v\u00fcyor, erkekleri s\u00f6v\u00fcyor, kad\u0131nlar\u0131 s\u00f6v\u00fcyor, k\u0131zlar\u0131 s\u00f6v\u00fcyor, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 s\u00f6v\u00fcyor, s\u00f6vd\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcyor ve \u00f6d\u00fcllendiriliyor. Okumu\u015fu, okumam\u0131\u015f\u0131, hac\u0131s\u0131, hocas\u0131, \u00f6\u011fretmeni, \u00f6\u011frencisi s\u00f6v\u00fcyor. K\u00f6yl\u00fcs\u00fc, kentlisi, \u015fehirlisi, medenisi, M\u00fcsl\u00fcman\u2019\u0131, laiki, ulusalc\u0131s\u0131, liberali, milliyet\u00e7isi, kom\u00fcnisti, sa\u011fc\u0131s\u0131, solcusu, dinlisi, dinsizi s\u00f6v\u00fcp duruyor. \u00c7ar\u015f\u0131da, pazarda, sokakta, caddede, okulda, bayramda, seyranda, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde, ma\u00e7 seyrederken stadda, salonda, tiyatroda, sinemada, kahvede, \u00e7ay oca\u011f\u0131nda,\u00a0 cafede, parkta, hastanede velhas\u0131l insan\u0131n oldu\u011fu her yerde s\u00f6vmeler g\u0131rla gidiyor.\u00a0 G\u00fcya s\u00f6vmeyenler anlatt\u0131klar\u0131 ve yapt\u0131klar\u0131 \u015febekliklerden dolay\u0131 s\u00f6vmekten daha \u00e7irkin s\u00f6zleri yayabiliyorlar. Bu toplum bil fiil s\u00f6v\u00fcyor. Bunu da heriflik olarak nitelendiriyor. Dedik ya s\u0131radan bir \u015feymi\u015f gibi davran\u0131l\u0131yor. Bir tan\u0131d\u0131k kuca\u011f\u0131ndaki \u00e7ocu\u011fu ile oynuyor di\u011fer yandan da yan\u0131ndakilerle konu\u015furken o \u00e7irkin eylemi icra etti ve duydum. Hemen yan\u0131na gidip \u201cAllah\u2019tan af dile, b\u00f6yle bir \u00e7irkin s\u00f6z\u00fc senin a\u011fz\u0131ndan duymas\u0131na sebep oldu\u011fun i\u00e7in \u00e7ocu\u011fundan da \u00f6z\u00fcr dile\u201d<\/b> dedim. Sa\u011folsun gere\u011fini yapt\u0131. Ka\u00e7 ki\u015fiyi bu \u015fekilde uyarabiliriz, ka\u00e7 ki\u015fi b\u00f6yle bir \u00e7irkin davran\u0131\u015f\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 af ve \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyebilir. Daha \u00f6nce konuyla ilgili bir yaz\u0131mda k\u0131saca bahsetmi\u015ftim: \u201cH\u0131rs\u0131zl\u0131ktan dolay\u0131 helallik alanlara, \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyenlere \u015fahit olmu\u015flu\u011fumuz vard\u0131r. Fakat s\u00f6vd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc i\u00e7in \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyene ve helallik alana rastlamad\u0131m. Bunun helalli\u011fi ve \u00f6zr\u00fc h\u0131rs\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131nkinden \u00e7ok daha a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131r.\u201c <\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

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\u0130nsanl\u0131k tarihi kadar eski olan b\u00f6yle bir \u00e7irkinli\u011fi ortadan kald\u0131rmak i\u00e7in ne yapal\u0131m? Necip milletimiz her konuda seferberlik veya kampanya baya ba\u015flatmay\u0131 sever. \u00d6ncelikle bireysel olarak ba\u015flamal\u0131y\u0131z. Biz s\u00f6vmeyece\u011fiz, s\u00f6v\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde onayl\u0131yormu\u015f gibi kahkaha atmayaca\u011f\u0131z. Y\u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc ek\u015fitece\u011fiz, hatta o \u00e7irkinli\u011fin i\u015flendi\u011fi mekan\u0131 terk edece\u011fiz. Kulaklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n kirletilmesine m\u00fcsaade etmemeliyiz. Usul\u00fc dairesinde de gerekli ikaz\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yapmal\u0131y\u0131z. O \u00e7irkin al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 terk edip yerine herkesin memnun, Rabbimizin de raz\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131 duay\u0131 yerle\u015ftirece\u011fiz. Dua \u00e7e\u015fitlili\u011fimizin i\u00e7erisine bu meseleyi de yerle\u015ftirmeliyiz. Rabbimizin o karde\u015flerimizi bu illetten kurtarmas\u0131 i\u00e7in, o illetin i\u015flendi\u011fi ortamlar\u0131 terk edebilme iradesi g\u00f6sterebilmeleri i\u00e7in samimi olarak dua etmeliyiz. Duam\u0131z\u0131 sadece kavli olanla s\u0131n\u0131rland\u0131rmayal\u0131m; fiili olarak da yapal\u0131m. Gel karde\u015fim deyip ortamdan uzakla\u015ft\u0131ral\u0131m, yap\u0131lan \u00e7irkinli\u011fin vahametini ona hat\u0131rlatal\u0131m. Peygamberimizle alakal\u0131 \u015fu hat\u0131rlatmay\u0131 da ihmal etmeyelim: \u201cNitekim \u0130sl\u00e2m\u2019a yeni giren C\u00e2bir b. S\u00fcleym\u2019e kimseye s\u00f6vmemesi tavsiyesinde bulunmu\u015f, o da buna uyarak hayat\u0131 boyunca hi\u00e7bir insana veya hayvana k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u00f6z s\u00f6ylememi\u015ftir. S\u00f6vmenin sosyal hayatta a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131 yaralara ve ki\u015finin dindarl\u0131\u011f\u0131na verdi\u011fi zararlara de\u011fi\u015fik vesilelerle dikkat \u00e7eken Hz. Peygamber \u00f6l\u00fclere s\u00f6vme \u00e2detini \u015fiddetle ele\u015ftirmi\u015f ve bunun hayattakileri \u00fczece\u011fi uyar\u0131s\u0131nda bulunmu\u015ftur. Yine hadislerde ana babaya, sah\u00e2b\u00eelere, zamana, r\u00fczg\u00e2ra, hastal\u0131\u011fa ve hayvanlara s\u00f6vmek de yasaklanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.\u201d[2]<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/span><\/a> <\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

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Baz\u0131 doktorlar ve psikologlar ma\u00e7a gitmenin insan\u0131 rahatlataca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorlarm\u0131\u015f. Neymi\u015f, ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131yormu\u015f, \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131yormu\u015f, s\u00f6v\u00fcyormu\u015f ve psikolojik olarak rahatl\u0131yorlarm\u0131\u015f. Bir ma\u00e7 seyretmek yedi doktora bedelmi\u015f. Tasavvur yamuk olunca ister istemez te\u015fhis de yanl\u0131\u015f olacakt\u0131r. S\u00f6vmenin yedi doktora bedel oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyenler bilmezler ki bizim bir \u201cYa sab\u0131r\u201d \u00e7ekmemiz onlar\u0131n yetmi\u015f doktoruna bedeldir. Unutmamam\u0131z gereken bir hakikat vard\u0131r ki s\u00f6verek, sayarak hi\u00e7bir \u015feyi de\u011fi\u015ftiremeyiz. \u0130yili\u011fi ve g\u00fczelli\u011fi istemek herkesin arzusudur. Bu arzuyu ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmenin ara\u00e7lar\u0131ndan olmamas\u0131 gerekenin ba\u015f\u0131nda s\u00f6vmek gelmektedir. \u0130yili\u011fi, g\u00fczelli\u011fi, huzuru, estetik olan\u0131 istemek ancak ar\u0131 duru bir kalple yap\u0131lacak dua ile m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. \u00c7evremizdeki maddi pisliklere kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmakla kalmay\u0131p her t\u00fcrl\u00fc \u00e7irkinli\u011fe de kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmal\u0131y\u0131z. Bu pisliklerin en bariz olanlar\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda s\u00f6vme gelmektedir. Ve biz bu \u00e7irkinli\u011fe kar\u015f\u0131 sava\u015f ba\u015flatmal\u0131, yerine duay\u0131 ikame etmeliyiz. Hi\u00e7bir insan\u0131n annesi, babas\u0131, kar\u0131s\u0131, kocas\u0131, bac\u0131s\u0131, o\u011flu, k\u0131z\u0131 ve her t\u00fcrl\u00fc de\u011feri bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n dilinde s\u00f6vmenin unsuru olmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Heriflik, adaml\u0131k, delikanl\u0131l\u0131k, mertlik, han\u0131mefendilik ve insanl\u0131k, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n her t\u00fcrl\u00fc de\u011ferinin a\u011f\u0131zlarda dua olmas\u0131d\u0131r. Ebu Cehil\u2019e dahi s\u00f6vd\u00fcrmeyen Peygamberin \u00fcmmeti nas\u0131l olur da karde\u015flerine s\u00f6ver? <\/span><\/p>\n

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S\u00f6vmeye hay\u0131r! Duaya evet! Sevgi toplumunu s\u00f6verek de\u011fil, dua ederek olu\u015fturabiliriz. Biz bu niyetimizi samimi olarak ortaya koyabilirsek arzulad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z sonucu Rabbimiz elbette var edecektir. S\u00f6vmeyen, seven ve dua edebilen a\u011f\u0131zlara selam olsun.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u00d6mer Naci Y\u0131lmaz<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

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[1]<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a> Mehmet BOYNUKALIN, TDV. \u0130SL. ANS. Cilt:37, s. 397<\/span><\/p>\n

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[2]<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a> Mehmet BOYNUKALIN, TDV. \u0130SL. ANS. Cilt:37, s. 398<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

S\u00f6vme \u201cT\u00fcrk\u00e7e\u2019de a\u011f\u0131r ve k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u00f6z s\u00f6yleme, \u0131rza ve namusa dokunan ay\u0131p ve \u00e7irkin ifadeler kullanma, k\u00fcfretme\u201d[1] anlam\u0131na gelir. Sadece muhatab\u0131n\u0131 utand\u0131rmakla kalmaz, duyan\u0131 da utand\u0131ran \u00e7irkin bir s\u00f6z ve davran\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Ne yaz\u0131k ki i\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z toplum bu konuda \u00e7ok mahirdir. \u00d6yleleri vard\u0131r ki i\u00e7erisinde \u00e7irkin s\u00f6z bulunmayan c\u00fcmle kurmaktan olduk\u00e7a acizdirler. Bu s\u00f6zler onlar …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":26,"featured_media":47065,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_themeisle_gutenberg_block_has_review":false,"_joinchat":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[38,54,43],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13681","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","","category-guncel","category-omer","category-yazarlar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13681","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/26"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13681"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13681\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/47065"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13681"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13681"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akincilardergisi.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13681"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}